Psychology & Mediation Services

Anne-Marie Box, Psychologist

Should I give my marriage one last chance?

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By Scott Costello, MSW LCSW

When you told your spouse that you wanted a divorce, were they shocked? I find that men are often shocked to find out that their wife wants a divorce. It’s then that they start to make changes, sometimes substantial changes in their lifestyle, attitude, or behavior, in order to save the marriage. Wives tend to feel angry at this point.

“It shouldn’t have to come to this!” “I shouldn’t have to file for divorce in order to get him to change!”

“The changes he’s making are not sincere.” [Read more…]

Parenting Through and After Divorce

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By Lilly Kingsley

Being a parent starts when a baby is born and never really ends. Divorce is an amazing time to see if your parenting skills are up to par, your children have been tossed into a situation not of their making that more than likely they are not happy with and do not know how to cope with.

It is the role of the parent that changes as the child grows, matures and becomes an adult. Divorce is something that happens to a married couple but effects all those around them. Your children may feel this divorce as deeply as you but it may not be in the same way and it may not be through mature expression that you can understand your children are in pain. This is not the time to let your pain blind you to your children’s distress and needs.

Try the below to keep tabs on your children’s emotions and needs; [Read more…]

Beware The Free Divorce Advice You Get

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By David Westwick

What is free divorce advice? Is it advice given to help you in your divorce to make the experience and outcomes better for you? Is it advice given to help you bypass mistakes that have cost other people? Or tactics you can incorporate to help you gain some advantage?

You will find that well intentioned advice is given freely by practically everyone you have contact with especially those who have an emotional investment in a divorce, theirs or someone close. The horror stories of how the system worked against a family member or the horrors of an ex doing the wrong thing and the system not intervening. There is also the advice about how someone received the lions share with a few tricks or strategies.

Free divorce advice online in forums or chat rooms is easily available and you can often read the interesting information that has helped in other cases.

The reality is that your marriage was individual and your divorce will be individual as well. Divorce laws differ from state to state and country to country and, quite frankly, from case to case. If divorce or any legal situation was easy to solve there would not be court dates or mediation or coaches or professionals working tirelessly to make the system better. [Read more…]