By Scott Costello, MSW LCSW
When you told your spouse that you wanted a divorce, were they shocked? I find that men are often shocked to find out that their wife wants a divorce. It’s then that they start to make changes, sometimes substantial changes in their lifestyle, attitude, or behavior, in order to save the marriage. Wives tend to feel angry at this point.
“It shouldn’t have to come to this!” “I shouldn’t have to file for divorce in order to get him to change!”
“The changes he’s making are not sincere.” [Read more…]
By David Westwick
What is free divorce advice? Is it advice given to help you in your divorce to make the experience and outcomes better for you? Is it advice given to help you bypass mistakes that have cost other people? Or tactics you can incorporate to help you gain some advantage?
You will find that well intentioned advice is given freely by practically everyone you have contact with especially those who have an emotional investment in a divorce, theirs or someone close. The horror stories of how the system worked against a family member or the horrors of an ex doing the wrong thing and the system not intervening. There is also the advice about how someone received the lions share with a few tricks or strategies.
Free divorce advice online in forums or chat rooms is easily available and you can often read the interesting information that has helped in other cases.
The reality is that your marriage was individual and your divorce will be individual as well. Divorce laws differ from state to state and country to country and, quite frankly, from case to case. If divorce or any legal situation was easy to solve there would not be court dates or mediation or coaches or professionals working tirelessly to make the system better. [Read more…]